being a mom

What it is too be a mom. I cant say that life has been easy since I became a mom but life has been worth all the hard times.Being a mom too my two wonderfull children is a gift from.God its not about anything else from that point on.I may be having the worst day in the world then look at my son or daughter and see them do one thing and it will just bring me back to what God wants .I was told one that God is like a crock pot cooking our lives till there done just rigt and as a mom now I can see that being a mom is like being a crock pot and looking at my mother I seetthe same thing.

Perched on the kitchen counter a crock pot is cooking chicken. Every once in a while, the steam bubbles up from around the edges of the lid; as a distant reminder of the constant yet often overlooked daily responsibilities of a mother. While the crock pot cooks food; mom is tending to the other duties in her life that have no place on a resume and receive no monetary compensation. Sometimes, what it means to be a mom is to be much like a crock pot; always busy providing warm and cozy treats to share yet silently sweaty in the background of life! Just like the chicken will be tossed in an ornate ceramic casserole dish before being served; mom can be forgotten and dismissed at a moments notice! But in a pinch; both mom and the crock pot are there to get things done, take care of dinner on a hurried day and enable more time for many of the important things in life.

The great debate of mom hood begins during pregnancy. Women get a first hand taste of being a mother and the fact that a little (sometimes not so little) alien has taken over your body making you tired, nauseous sometimes, swollen and miserable is just a tiny glimpse of what is to come. It seems that moms usually more than dads from the get go are expected, wired and genetically dispositional to begin a giving process that is exactly selfless by definition. Moms notice; but push the thoughts away realizing tohat these little people who call their name, make demands, lose control and need, need, and need will someday soon be gone. But being a mom isn’t only about sacrifice, work or being unappreciated. What it means to be a mom is living; and like most things in life it isn’t thought of most passionately until years later – perhaps while rocking grandchildren to sleep!

What no one can understand unless they are a mother themselves is that sometimes smelling your baby’s hair is enough to make your body have a positive shift in endorphins. The way children do something that is so completely cute, funny and free that it makes you want to cry and rejoice in the fact that you were able to witness it. Walking through their room at 2 in the morning and seeing them tucked under the covers, snoring ever so slightly and still trying to pop their feet out from where you tugged in the sheet. That is what it means to be a mom. Being a mom is knowing that they don’t care if you woke up early to fix them breakfast when cereal would have been easier but doing it anyway. Not so you can get a reward; but because you really wanted them to eat before school. It is dropping them off at school in the morning, taking a great big sigh of relief as they are yes, finally out of your hair and then finding your self missing them before noon. It is that feeling you get as you are in the shower with shampoo in your hair when the phone rings and your stomach dives toward the drain; you know something is wrong and your children need you.

Being a mom is not knowing - but feeling like as long as they are with you they are safe. Sure, other people can take care of them; keep them entertained – but only you have the God given right to keep and maintain their acute safety. It is watching Bambi; watching Bambi’s mom lie on her to keep her warm through the snowstorm and welling up with tears that seem rooted from your soul because you know you would do the same thing; feel the same way and quite possibly lose your life to save theirs. What it means to be a mom is that life is often routine and non-stimulating. It means handing over some passions and cravings and inklings left over from the person you were before. Being a mom means waiting, hurrying and slowing down all at once. It is the way you can either feel annoyed at your grass roots or elated when you hear them say the word ‘mom’ and it means always being touched - whether physically or emotionally. Being a mom also means being completely stripped down to the naked child of your own past to undo, relearn or figure out how to do things right for your children and give them answers to questions that you probably couldn’t answer for your self.

What it means to be a mom is that you are like that old and faithful crock pot cooking chicken so you can run the kids to baseball practice and dance lessons. There will be stains down the side of the pot that no sponge can wipe away, and sometimes it is packed so full of nourishment that the lid doesn’t fit tightly; but it cooks anyways. Like the crock pot moms have timers that tell them when they are ready, done or need longer and they don’t require much maintenance are non-stick, trustworthy and easy to use but even easier to enjoy! Just like the crock pot can fill the house with a special aroma that sends yummy thoughts through everyone who walks through your doors; moms can do the same for their families. The best part of all is that no matter what you are cooking; the crock pot seems to have an innate sense of knowing when it is perfect; just like a mom does. Being a mom means being slow and steady like the crock pot and knowing that every recipe you read in a book will be perfect once you put your personal spin on it. As the crock pot gets older; it might not get as hot or as much use – but it stays constant in the cabinets of life just waiting to be useful again. Being a mom is knowing that what your life is now is only a sheer image of what your life will be like in 20 years when suddenly, without reason or compassion you; like the crock pot are stuck in the cabinets waiting for a meal to be together. But you wait anyways!

Too my children

 
Too My children
 
I am writing you this letter because there is so much that I want to say to you. I try to say it in person, but the words never seem to come out right.
Life is hard. It is an ever-winding road with twists and turns. There are speed bumps and potholes along the way, but I want to you to be prepared. I want to you be sure that you have everything that you need in life. I am doing my best to provided you with that, but there are some things that I have come to realize that you will have to find for yourself. I can only tell you about them. Just like at times my mother tried to tell me things and tried to show me the way and me being who I was and who I am I had to find my own way so hear I am writing this down so one day your all alone or just feeling alone in this big world and for some reason you don’t want to ask or just cant I have written some things down for you too look at and read know I am always there for you and I will always listen to your thoughts and cares I love you more then you will ever know so hear we Go …

LOVE AND AFFECTION
 
 
I have loved each of you from the very first time that I realized that I carried you in my womb. My heart filled with joy at each flutter and kick. Then, when you were born, I used to hold you in my arms and rock you to sleep while singing whatever sweet tune filled my heart. I have tried to show you with every breath how much you mean to me and how no matter what I was there and will be . I have tried to give you affection and attention every day of your lives. You could be a million miles away and my love will still reach you or you could be on my lap or in the room beside me just know that I love you and that will never change no matter what you do I will always love you.

EDUCATION IS KEY
 
 
As you grew older, I will send you off to school. I will pray that whatever you learned in those classrooms, you would bring home and share with me so that I might be able to help you. I will sat with you through hours of homework- even when it was stuff that i do not fully understand myself. I will try to work it out with you. I will sit and stare at your text books when you were not around so I could figure out every little detail of what you were having trouble with because I want to be able to take part in your learning process. School is so vary important because with education you can do anything I hope you know that. I struggled in school but I also worked vary hard to achieve it when people said I couldn’t do it and I wouldn’t be able too I worked even harder to prove them wrong. I know how hard it can be in school because it was hard for me but lean on each other and your family because we all excel in different areas in life like some of use are really good in English and some are great in math and others history or French or sports but there is always someone who knows it a little different then you and asking for help may not be easy but it is something that is smart not anyone knows everything and well there are those put in your life for reasons tap into there knowledge and learn from there mistakes and there successes and you will always come out on top trust this and you will make it a little perseverance goes a long way..

　
　
PROBLEMS IN LIFE
 
 
I have never been the best at problem solving for myself but with others I knew how to help. I never let my problems get me down because I believe that you are always in line with something wonderful when something bad happens because that something bad is there to wreck your mood and if you see the ray of sunshine thought that problem then there is always a way out, I have tried to teach each if you to be your self and be loving but to stand up and be counted for as well. I want you to be strong independent and confident. I want you to be better and bolder than I ever could have been, That way, when problems come into you life, you will be able to handle them with honour and decency. I want that for you. I want you to be kind and loving too those who have less and I want you to know that every situation could always be worse and that God wouldn’t give you more then you can handle even though at times it feels that way.

FOLLOW YOUR DREAM
 
 
Whatever inspires you in life, go for it. Don't let any one tell you that you cannot reach your stars. If they were unreachable, they would not be yours. Just please be realistic about your hopes and dreams. Don't aspire to be a singer if you can't carry a tune.
Your dreams are not going to fall in your lap. You will have to work hard to achieve them, but don't give up. Don't lose faith in yourself. Whatever it is that you want in life, you can have. You just have to believe that you are worthy to have it and don't be afraid to go after it. don’t think you wont have too work your butt off to get to those dreams because believe me whatever in this world is worth having takes lots of time and patience and hard work to get there and that’s why its worth having it if it was giving too you on a sliver platter you really wouldn’t want it after a little bit it may be nice at first but after a little time it will fade because you didn’t work for it.. So work hard for your dreams and you can never go wrong…

LOVE AND HAPPINESS
 
 
I wish nothing but love and peace in your lives. I know that they will not always come, but know that it is possible. When you are old enough to find that special someone in life that you want to share all of your hopes and dreams, failures and successes, and laughter and tears with, hold on to them. True love is fading away in this world. If fate leads you to it, don't be afraid to take it and hold on to it. Love is so vary important those who love you and that you love will always be there at times you may feel alone in love but remember that like I said before nothing in life is worth it if you don’t have to work for it love is the same way it takes lots of work there will be some days you just hat each other and others you want to hold on all day so do so and work though it because love is one of those things you don’t want too loss out on…

TAKE IT WITH A GRAIN OF SALT
 
 
There will always be someone in life that will treat you wrong. Take it with a grain of salt. It may leave a bitter taste in your mouth, but you can always spit it out later. Don't let anger and hatred take you to places that you don't want to go. If you fill yourself with these negative emotions, then you leave little or no room for any thing positive. So think positive and always treat other’s how you would like to be treated because how you treat other’s is how they will treat you show them love and not hate show them respect and care about there needs as well as your own ..

REMEMBER THAT MOMMY LOVES YOU
 
 
Whatever and wherever you go in life, remember that your mother loves you. If there was one thing that I could do in life to shield any one of you from one day's harm, I would do without hesitation. I would lay down my life just to make you smile- if that's what it would take. I have struggled and sacrificed every day just to keep you happy and safe, and if I were able to go back and start my life again, I would not change a thing. I would gladly do it all over again for you. You are my reasons for getting up in the morning. You are reasons for trying so hard in life. Without you, life would just be another day, week , month or year . I just hope that see the love I have for you and see that it will never fade and I hope that you will always show me your love for me like you have so far because those little moments that mean nothing to others mean the world too me like when you give me a hug and a kiss and curl up in my lap and fall asleep in my arms those mean the world too your dear old mother.

BE YOUR OWN PEOPLE
 
 
Never let anyone force you into being someone that you are not. Be who you are. Remember that you were born in love and you grew up in love and that is the path that you should follow. Find you strengths and don't be ashamed of your weaknesses. Hold your head up high. Be individual. There is only one you, so try to be that person and don’t form him/her into someone else.
Well, that is all that I have to say for now. I hope that you read my words and know that you are loved. I hope that the joys that you have given me in my l life, come back to you ten fold, and that the sorrows that I have faced, never come to you. These are words from my heart to yours. Take them in and keep them in a special place inside of you.
　
Love always,
Your mother.

Before i was a mom

Before I was a Mom -
I slept as late as I wanted and never worried about how late I got into bed. I brushed my hair and my teeth everyday.
Before I was a Mom -
I cleaned my house each day. I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never thought about immunizations.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never been puked on - Pooped on - Spit on - Chewed on, or Peed on. I had complete control of my mind and My thoughts. I slept all night.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held down a screaming child so that doctors could do tests...or give shots. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never sat up late hours at night watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom -
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it down. I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt. I never knew that something so small could affect my life
so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.
Before I was a Mom -
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body. I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know that bond between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small could make me feel so important.
Before I was a Mom -
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to make sure all was okay. I had never known The warmth, The joy, The love, The heartache, The wonderment or the satisfaction of being a Mom. I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much before I was a Mom.